I’M WORRIED ABOUT SOMEONE

Maybe someone you know hasn’t seemed themselves lately.

Perhaps they’ve become withdrawn, something difficult has happened in their life, they’ve said something that worried you, or you simply have a feeling that something isn’t right. You don’t need to be certain before checking in. Starting a conversation could be more important than you realise.

If you’re worried they may act on their thoughts — Their safety comes first.

CALL 999 (EMERGENCY)

CALL SAMARITANS: 116 123

WHAT SIGNS SHOULD I LOOK OUT FOR?

There isn’t one sign that tells you someone is thinking about suicide. Sometimes there may be changes in the way someone talks or behaves.

You might notice that they:

Seem hopeless or trapped
Withdraw from friends and family
Stop doing things they normally enjoy
Struggle to cope with everyday life
Talk about being a burden
Talk as though there’s no future
Experience significant changes in mood
Stop looking after themselves
Become increasingly isolated
Have recently experienced a major loss, relationship breakdown or other difficult life event

Sometimes there are very few obvious signs. That’s why conversation matters. Asking directly about suicide does not put the idea in someone’s head—instead, it opens a safe, non-judgmental space for them to speak openly. Starting a gentle, honest conversation signals that they don’t have to carry the weight alone, giving them permission to share what they are experiencing and allowing you to connect them with life-saving support.

HOW DO I START THE CONVERSATION?

You don’t need the perfect words. Choose somewhere you can talk privately and without rushing.

You could start with:

“I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed yourself lately. How are things really?”
“I’m worried about you. Do you want to talk about what’s been happening?”

Then give them time to answer.

Ask directly about suicide: If you’re concerned someone may be suicidal, it’s OK to ask them directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” Talking openly about suicide doesn’t encourage someone to become suicidal—a clear question gives them permission to tell you what they’re experiencing.
Respond calmly if they say yes: Try to stay calm. You don’t have to solve everything. Listen and take what they say seriously. You might say: “I’m really glad you told me,” or “You don’t have to deal with this alone.”
Don’t promise to keep it secret: If someone’s safety is at risk, getting additional help is more important than keeping the conversation between the two of you.
Help them take the next step: Small practical actions can make asking for help feel much more manageable. You can sit beside them while they call for support, make the call together, or help them write down what they want to say. You could also travel with them to get support, help them contact someone they trust, or check in with them again afterwards.
Look after yourself too: Supporting someone who is struggling can be emotionally exhausting. You don’t have to carry responsibility for another person’s wellbeing by yourself. Talk to someone you trust and seek support for yourself when you need it.

IMMEDIATE SUPPORT

Reaching out can feel difficult, but PIPS Suicide Prevention Charity supports people experiencing suicidal thoughts as well as friends, family, and anyone worried about someone else.

“I’m worried about someone”

That’s enough. Talk to PIPS Charity and we’ll help you work out the next step.

TRUST YOU INSTINCT

Maybe someone you know hasn’t seemed themselves lately.

Perhaps they’ve become withdrawn, something difficult has happened in their life, they’ve said something that worried you, or you simply have a feeling that something isn’t right.

You don’t need to be certain before checking in. Starting a conversation could be more important than you realise.

ABOUT PIPS CHARITY

PIPS Suicide Prevention Charity supports people experiencing suicidal thoughts and emotional distress, as well as families, friends and others who are worried about someone.

Talk to PIPS Charity and we’ll help you work out the next step.